May 24, 2006

Step 3 : Alternative methods of comfort

Posted in Uncategorized at 7:10 pm by ditchthedummy

Step 3 : Alternative methods of comfort

Up until now your child has used their dummy or pacifier for comfort. So now they need an alternative to comfort.

Obviously we are not going to bribe them or buy them gifts, we are not swapping a dummy or pacifier for something else they will have to give up. Your child is upset and needs comfort from you.

Imagine how you feel when your upset, maybe frustrated, hurt or angry.

Try to imagine how your child feels.

Communication is an excellent way of finding out why they are upset so you can therefore remedy the situation, so ask them why they are upset, make sure you ask in a soft voice tone and have direct eye contact with them.

Touch them, its very comforting to know someone is there for you when your upset, especially when you’re a child, give them a hug, hold their hand, sit them on your knee etc, show them you care.

Distract them, we all know how to distract our child from their upset frame of mind. Maybe take them into the bathroom and run the water, children love running water, even let them put their hands or feet in it or read them their favourite story, you know what will distract them.

If all else fails and your child will only respond to the dummy or pacifier, then give them it, we haven’t got to the step where they have dumped that dummy !


May 15, 2006

Step 2 – Slowly Wean Your child off the dummy

Posted in Uncategorized at 6:50 pm by ditchthedummy

Step 2 : Slowly Wean Your Child off the Dummy

In order for your child to give up their dummy or pacifier, you will have to remove

the habit that has formed in their mind.

You have to get your child used to the idea of not having their dummy / pacifier and

you have to let your child see that they can cope without the dummy, in fact they will

see they can be happy without the dummy at all.

Now you are going to have the patience of a saint, there are testing times ahead but

you have to be strong for your child. As a parent you are responsible for teaching

them and guiding them to a happy and healthy life, they are totally dependant on you.

Now its up to you which way you would like to perform this step.

a) You can choose a certain time of the day, say 9am until 10am, when no matter

what happens your child wont get their dummy, you don t tell your child that this is

the case, instead if they are upset or crying you are going to use your skills to comfort

them in other ways, you know what comforts you child but don t use the dummy.

b) You could just remove the dummy whenever the child seems uninterested in using

it, ie. anytime you see the dummy / pacifier you will take it away, out of sight out of

mind they say. Often when the child sees the dummy they immediately want it, so

removing it from their eyesight is n excellent way to take their mind off it.

c) Pretend to your child that the dummy is lost. Then make a game of finding it,

obviously you wont find out, instead you will use this opportunity to distract their

attention and focus it on something else. Find a toy, book, when you are looking for

the dummy.

d) Your own way! Each and every child has different needs and behaviours.

Obviously you know what your child needs, if you think of another way then use that,

my steps only worked for my little girl and are just guidelines for you and your child.

Another good tip is never let your child have a favourite dummy now, always change

it to a new one, different colour etc, we don t want them familiar with any dummy.


Watch out for Step 3

Sally 🙂